How to Write the Perfect "About Me" for Your Matrimony Profile
How to write the About Me on a matrimony profile or biodata - what to include, samples for a bride, a groom and a parent, what to leave out, and how long.
Raj Patil · Founder, Vivah Swapn
Raj Patil is the founder of Vivah Swapn and writes about matchmaking, building strong matrimony profiles, and Maharashtrian marriage traditions.
A good About Me for a matrimony profile is a short paragraph or two, roughly 100 to 250 words, in a plain and warm voice. It covers three things: how you spend your days and what your work means to you, what you value at home and in family life, and what kind of partner and life you are hoping for. Specific details work better than adjectives, positive lines work better than warnings, and phone numbers, addresses and ID numbers never belong in it.
Height, education and income are filters. They decide whether a family keeps reading. The About Me is what they read next, and it is often what makes them send an interest or move on.
What to include in your About Me
1. Who you are, shown rather than claimed
Words like "simple", "down-to-earth" and "fun-loving" appear on so many profiles that readers skip them. Replace each one with something you actually do.
- Instead of: "I am a simple and fun-loving person."
- Write: "Most weekends I am at home with a book or helping my mother in the kitchen, but I am always up for a Sinhagad trek with friends when someone plans one."
2. Your work, and how you feel about it
Say what you do in a sentence, then what it means to you: whether you are building a career, settling into a steady job, or running a family business.
- Instead of: "I work as a software engineer at an MNC."
- Write: "I am a software engineer in Pune. I like my work and want to keep growing in it, but I keep my evenings for home and family."
3. Your family and the home you grew up in
For many Marathi families this matters as much as anything about you. A line or two about your parents, siblings and the kind of household you come from helps a family picture where you fit.
- "I live with my parents and younger sister in Kothrud. We are a close family, and Sunday lunch together is the one rule nobody breaks."
4. What you are looking for
Be clear and kind. Describe the person and the life you hope for, not a list of specifications.
- Instead of: "Looking for a fair, tall girl who knows how to cook." or "Looking for a guy earning 20+ LPA."
- Write: "I am looking for someone who values family, has a good sense of humour, and sees marriage as an equal partnership built on respect."
About Me samples
Use these to see the shape, then write your own. A copied paragraph reads as copied, and families notice when three profiles say the same thing.
For a bride:
I am a chartered accountant working with a firm in Nashik, and I enjoy the clarity my work needs. At home I am the one who plans the family trips and keeps everyone's birthdays. I learnt Bharatanatyam for ten years and still practise when I can. I am looking for a partner who is kind, open about his thoughts, and comfortable with a wife who has a demanding career and a close bond with her parents.
For a groom:
I teach mathematics at a junior college in Kolhapur and help my father with our farm on weekends. I like a quiet, organised life, cricket on Sunday mornings and long conversations over tea. My parents and I live together, and I hope my wife will feel at home with them while we build our own routine. I would like a partner who is honest, cheerful and has her own interests.
Written by a parent:
We are writing this for our son Aniket. He works as a civil engineer with a construction company in Pune and travels to sites across the district. He is calm, dependable and the person his friends call when something needs fixing. He enjoys cooking on holidays and follows Marathi theatre. We are a family of four, and our daughter is married and settled in Mumbai. We are looking for a well-educated, family-minded girl, and Aniket would like someone he can talk to easily.
If a parent is writing it
Many profiles are created and run by parents, and that is normal. A few things keep a parent-written About Me useful:
- Say who is writing. "We are writing for our daughter" is honest and reads well. Families do not mind a parent's voice; they mind not knowing whose voice it is.
- Describe the person, not the praise. "My son is very handsome and obedient" tells a reader nothing. What does he do on a Sunday? How does he treat his family?
- Let your son or daughter read it before it goes live. They will catch anything that does not sound like them, and they are the one who will be asked about it at the first meeting.
Our guide for parents setting up a matrimony profile covers the rest of the process.
What to leave out
- Phone numbers, email addresses and social media handles. Matrimony sites keep contact details in their own section, where you control who sees them. Contact details typed into the About Me get around that, and most sites remove them. On Vivah Swapn, our team does not approve profile text that carries contact details.
- Aadhaar, PAN or any ID number, and your full address. None of these belong anywhere in a profile or a biodata.
- Negative lines. "Timepassers stay away" or "Don't message if you can't cook" put off the very people you want. Say what you do want.
- Demands about complexion, caste superiority or dowry. They say more about the writer than about the match. Dowry is also an offence in India, whatever it is called; our post on dowry law explains what the law says.
- The story of a past marriage. If you are divorced or widowed, state it plainly elsewhere on the profile and keep the About Me in the present. Our second marriage biodata guide has examples.
- Anything you would not want a stranger to know. A profile is read by many people before it is read by the right one.
Length and language
Three or four short paragraphs at most. Families read on phones, so long blocks of text get skimmed. If you have written more than 250 words, cut the parts that list qualities and keep the parts that describe your life.
Write in the language you are comfortable in, and if you can, write it in both Marathi and English. Older relatives often prefer Marathi; cousins and families abroad often read English. On Vivah Swapn you can write the About Me in either language or both, up to 2,000 characters in each. Whatever you write, keep it consistent with your marriage biodata, because families often see both.
Frequently asked questions
How long should a matrimony About Me be?
About 100 to 250 words. Long enough to give a sense of you, short enough to be read on a phone in under a minute.
Should I write in the first person or the third person?
First person if you are writing it yourself. If a parent is writing, the third person is fine, as long as the profile makes clear who wrote it.
Should I mention my salary in the About Me?
No. Income has its own field on most profiles and on the biodata. The About Me is for what the fields cannot say.
Can I copy a sample About Me?
Use samples for shape, not words. A family that reads the same paragraph on two profiles trusts neither of them.
What if I am shy about writing about myself?
Ask a sibling or a close friend to describe you in three sentences, then rewrite what they said in your own words. It is usually kinder and more accurate than what you would write alone.
The point of an About Me is not to attract everyone. It is to help the right person recognise you. Write it honestly, keep it short and specific, and update it when your life changes.